A Six stereotype is that we’re really paranoid. But I think fear looks really different for each of us. My fear is much more emotional: I fear you’ll leave me, I fear I won’t be good enough, I fear I’m too demanding or high maintenance.

When I first learned about the enneagram and discovered I was probably a Six, my next thought was, well, I don’t fear very many things so I must be a healthy Six. A few weeks later I attended an enneagram workshop where I learned that my fear of being afraid is still a fear.

The opposite of fear isn’t brute courage or might. It’s faith: that people will show up for you, that you’ll be ok, it’s leaving room for unknowns.

Being a healthy Six means embracing instability in order to become truly secure.

  1. What are you afraid of?
  2. In your own words, what is the opposite of fear?

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Written & Spoken by Hannah Schaefer
Music by Josh Spacek
Footage by Mitch Martinez
Edited by Jim Kast-Keat

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